Since my husband and I both wanted a large family, it was a disappointment to us when we learned that we might not have children. However, the problem was solved when we were able to adopt. Adoption was very different in the 1960s and 1970s. It was completely confidential and the only biological information we were given was the child’s medical background (when it was known). Then we adopted four children from Korea and one from Vietnam and they didn’t even have their medical history.
Each little spirit was a new adventure, just as it was with our two biological sons, who came years later. Now that our children are grown, we have a good relationship with each one. However, we are closer with some than we are with others. We spend more time with some than others etc. That seems to be the result of their life circumstances and choices, and that’s okay. We love them all.
And what an adventure and learning experience it has been for us as we have been able to share in so many different lives, so many different ways of thinking, so many different abilities and personalities. I love diversity–always have, and that may have been why I was so anxious to add many diverse little spirits into our family.
I have posted an essay titled “The Love is Not Different” in the list of published essays on the right side of the page. Hope you enjoy it.